may love be with you all days, not just on valentine’s


Happy Valentines Day to those who have found love, in whatever shape or form, and to those who are still hunting, don’t give up. If you feel bad, send yourself a card. You must be worth it…

The quote above is by Jeanette Winterson and is one I like for it speaks of not only loving another in whatever shape or form, which includes good friends and people you care about deeply, but ultimately it is about loving and cherishing the one who looks back at you when you look at a mirror.


There are many things that have been said about Love over time.

C. S. Lewis, who was a very wise man, in his book the The Four Loves:


There is no safe investment. To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless – it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.

Quite profound I feel and true. You may as well be dead if your heart is closed off.

Another writer once said:

I simply want to tell you that somehow I can’t imagine life without you…

I love you, I want you, I need you unbearably… Your eyes — which shine so wonder-struck when, with your head thrown back, you tell something funny — your eyes, your voice, lips, your shoulders — so light, sunny…

You came into my life — not as one comes to visit … but as one comes to a kingdom where all the rivers have been waiting for your reflection, all the roads, for your steps.


So I leave you with this… Love yourself in ways you never have before and the rest will follow, as it surely will. It is my hope that you find love today and always.

Be kind to yourselves.

it happens all the time in heaven

hafiz holding hands

I was sent this poem earlier today and it struck me purely for its simplicity and its truth.

So, I thought I’d share it here, with you:

It Happens All the Time in Heaven
(translation by Daniel Ladinsky)

It happens all the time in heaven, and someday
It will begin to happen again on earth –
That men and women who are married, and
Men and women who are lovers,
And women and women who give each other
Often will get down on their knees, and while
So tenderly holding their lover’s hand, with
Tear-filled eyes, will sincerely say, “ My dear,
How can I be more loving to you; my darling,
How can I be more kind?”

I guess it struck a chord, today especially, given the current (and ongoing) madness in the world.

People can be so unkind to each other with their thoughts, their actions, their motives, their words, their intentions.

Stephen Fry and Elliott Spencer.


… name but a few.

Last evening I came across Eileen Flanagan, an author, speaker and activist who wrote on her Facebook page:

I’ve been noticing lately how much people need encouragement. It’s so easy to feel alone or to feel that what we do doesn’t matter. So this morning I want to give a shout out to all those folks trying–trying to follow their call, whatever it is, trying to show up to life. It matters, and you are not alone. Believe it.

So I want to try to do this more in my own life.

Encourage others.

And be kinder, for often I fail.

And reminding myself of the connection that exists between all human beings, its ripple effect, the aftermath and the consequences.

As always, be kind to yourselves.

Eileen Flanagan