no patience nor energy


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Meryl Streep is one of my favourite actresses and in a recent article in the elephant journal she says:

True freedom is understanding that we have a choice in who and what we allow to have power over us.

Each individual’s day-to-day level of agency varies with lifestyle and a host of socio-economic factors, where at any given moment some people actually have less choice than others.

But many of us only think we are lacking in choice.

(The next time you think you “can’t” be outside because it’s too cold, think about a prisoner who really does not have the choice to go outside).

True empowerment is about recognizing where the choice is and then moving in directions that reinforce not only our joy and presence but also this feeling of knowing that we have choice.

To me, that has everything to do with who we interact with—how we treat others, how we are treated.

We all have to deal with—welll, a**holes—sometimes. That’s just a fact. Thickening our skin is necessary. We can’t hide from the world just because people are jerks; to an extent, we have to learn how to deal with them. We have to learn this to survive.

There will always be jerks. Sad but true.

But life is too short to feel small on a regular basis, to be in close proximity to this kind of energy any more than is necessary. We may try to be tough, but it can wear on us—especially the extra-sensitive souls.

This quote has been floating around the internet as something that Meryl Streep said (wrote), but should be attributed to Portuguese self-help author José Micard Teixeira.

“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me.

I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping.

I hate conflict and comparisons.

I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals.

And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.”

Regardless of who said it and why I love this quote very much.

Here’s to Meryl’s and your, grace and beauty.

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I'm a woman living in London and this blog captures what lands within my sight and connects with my psyche. I expect it to evolve naturally. It is a place I shall visit from time to time and where things that I am touched by deeply will find a soft place to land. As a psychotherapist and a continuing student, most of the articles you shall find here will somehow, in some way, be related to therapy and well-being. I love comments, so feel free to add yours, whenever and however. I wish you well.

5 thoughts on “no patience nor energy”

  1. I love the quote. I remain a little skeptical about how much choice people really have given the power of circumstances. But a still mind helps us see what options we have-particulalry over how we react to others. All the best.

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  2. The choice in choosing how to respond is always within our power I would like to think at least. But the ability to respond can at times be governed by circumstances.

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    1. Thanks for your comments. Much appreciated. It does encourage deeper thought and I have been thinking a lot about choices, our freedom to choose (if indeed we can) and ultimately how to reclaim our power. I wish you well.

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